Friday, August 23, 2013
Tetris Time - Multitasking
Recently there has been a big push against multitasking which is not surprising since many of us would like to see life slow down but we are given reasons like; multitasking doesn't work, you're not really multitasking, or other dissuading comments.
I know I can feel a little helpless reading these things because these are other bloggers that seem to be living perfectly. Their homes always seem to be clean, their children never behave badly, they are successful bloggers, homemakers, mothers and homeschool on top of it all! So they must have figured everything out and are doing it correctly, right?
The truth is we are all different and the needs of our families are also different. There is no real right or wrong unless you do nothing at all.
Admittedly multitasking isn't always the way I would like to do things but I look at time like I do tetris. I even find myself humming Korobeiniki while performing tasks. Surely I'm not the only one, especially while rearranging the cabinets or fridge.
Multiple tasks are just apart of a busy life. There are children, pets, chores, shopping, work, clubs and various other activities and only 24 hours in a day and sadly at least part of those hours need to be spent sleeping! Darn that need for sleep I could get so much more done otherwise!
Trying to keep up with all these various tasks I also treat it like I'm playing a game of tetris because there are many tasks that can be fit together or fit into the lulls of daily life.
Uh-hem...
Let me get my geek on and explain this like the game.
It is never that I stop trying to finish a line (aka an activity) but sometimes pieces don't fit in perfectly and I am left with gaps (time). My goal of completing that line is the same but if a block won't fit properly then it just won't fit and trying to force it can cause more problems down the line. So instead I work on stacks to the sides and come back to filling in the gaps with pieces that will fit better. They may still not fit perfectly but something is better than nothing.
Real life example, please don't get too weirded out by my odd habit. I keep a magic eraser in the shower. Sometimes I would like a few extra minutes in the shower by myself so I take my magic eraser and scrub the soap scum that builds up. The tub may not be perfect but it is easier to keep up on for when I have time to do a better cleaning job and I got 5 minutes to myself and didn't have to worry about getting messy before work.
We all multitask to some point if you thinking about what multitasking is by definition: to perform two or more tasks simultaneously.
So if you are on a train to work you could be reading, checking your email, etc. Technically that is multitasking. Folks multi task in the kitchen all the time and while it can cause problems, unless you want to stagger food and take all night eating it or be forced to put things in the microwave then you have to learn to handle more than one thing at a time and instead of blaming multitasking for the fire alarm being the dinner bell instead look at personal organization and timing.
I would also venture to say there is a limit to how much a person can multitask. That limit is set by how involved something is physically and mentally, how long it takes to do that something and how well do you want it done.
If you focus on one thing you will nearly always get better results but if you are as busy as I am then sometimes you have to shoot for 'good enough' and realize any effort is better than no effort.
Using scheduling programs such as Cozi can sometimes help you see where the gaps are that you might not have otherwise recognized. It can also help people know what the schedule is so no one is caught off guard.
Now I don't fill every little thing into my Cozi or calendar. Some things are kind of a given like getting out of bed at 6am, feeding the children, getting ready for the day, and various chores so I don't put those down they either have a set time frame like 6-7:20 I'm getting the family up and out the door or at 8pm I put the children to bed other things I probably should put on (like my husband starting on call this week I just found out about that last night ugh).
The point here is finding the gaps and realizing that they are there. As tired and helpless as we can feel it can be easy to fall into the, "I just don't have time!" It's not that we are trying to lie to ourselves it's that we really do feel that way! I come home after work and will flop down and take time just to get my head straight and while it's not on the schedule I think it's something that is pretty needed.
If you make up your schedule and and you truly don't have any gaps of time it might be time to look at cutting back on something if at all possible. Some days are always going to be busier than others this is a pretty easy fun day for us but if you find everyday hectic you might need to look at your priorities and sanity level.
These are all my observations and feelings and what works for me. I know I used the word 'you' a lot but as I stated at the beginning there is no right or wrong as long as you keep moving forward.
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
How Two People Met and Became A Family
Today Peter took off work early as did I to meet Beth from the local newspaper to interview us as one of the couples in the area that met online. Her main focus was on couples who met on sites like Match.com and others yet Peter and I have a different story. Over an hour of talking and being interviewed and we glazed over things. I won't even attempt to go into as much detail here to save you all from tired eyes.
Peter lived in Owensboro, KY (where we currently reside) and I lived with my parents in Springfield, OR. Around 1996 Peter and I met each other on a MUSH which was a text only roleplay site. Think of like a chat room where you pretend to be wizards and vampires and such and each person helps tell the story of what is going on like chapters in a book. We gamed with each other for several years and after a time started talking out of character on the site. In 1999 Peter was sleeping on his friends couch, unemployed and depressed. I was just about to turn 18 and I asked him to come spend a week at my parents house with me (with my parents okay of course). Peter's friends knew he had to get up and out and they put him on a greyhound in March and we spent a week together in Oregon with many different stories springing from there that I could spend hours talking about. Neither of us went in expecting a relationship but after that week we constantly talked on the phone (which would later bite us as he racked up a $400 bill with AT&T). In April he asked me to marry him over the phone. We had many adventures after that as we moved to Arizona and then back to Oregon and fumbled through this relationship. We bought our rings at an after Christmas sale in the mall and a few months later (yes I didn't find out until well along - long explanation) we found out I had gotten pregnant with our first so we pushed the wedding date up.
We've had our ups and downs over the years but there are a few things that I appreciate about how we met and the main one is that it was never a relationship based off of looks but pure personality and the building of trust.
This past summer I went to my cousins wedding and got to talk to my parents and found out how they met in college and got to hear the awkward story of how that all unfolded. I'm so glad that I got to hear it though and I sometimes think it's a topic we don't think about talking about often but it is perhaps one of the most amazing things in life to realize sometimes how by chance it can be or how slow or fast it can all come about.
I'd love to hear more 'how we met' stories from people. I think sometimes we realize how amazing our relationships are but we forget just how spectacular of a chance we were given in the first place.
Monday, August 19, 2013
Monday Wrap-Up
I can't say it'll always be Monday that I wrap things up or heck that I can post my 'To-Do' before I do it but we'll see how things go.
So let's see how I did on my list.
Wash
Fold -> 3/4ths done after 5 loads socks and undergarments bested me again on where I left off.
Put Away -> Mine and Peter's are put away but the girls' clothes are not.
| After cleaning & shopping |
| Beginning of the day |
| This weeks groceries $60.83 |
So yeah I didn't finish everything I set out to do today but that's okay.
Other News:
Katherine got all her points at school today! She remembered everything she needed to bring home too! We went to Buffalo Wild Wings which is where she requested and the waitress was so surprised that is where my 9 year old girl wanted to eat. We ate until we were stuffed and then the store gave her a free bottle of buffalo wing sauce! She went out of there saying, "Best Birthday EVER". I still think it is funny she turned down the cake and instead took the sauce. We had also made a deal that the next time she got all her points I'd take her down and get what is called 'spray candy' where it's this spray bottle of candy tasting stuff. So we dropped Peter and Brielle back at home so Brielle could get back on her homework and I took Katherine out to get her treat. Mommy keeps her promises!
Also, today I've been going back and forth with the local newspaper working out a date and time they want to interview us for Saturday's paper for an article about online relationships. Know it or not Peter lived in Kentucky and I lived in Oregon and we met through an online game we both played. It may sound like a silly start and we've stuck it out.
Still in other news:
I started this project Friday when I was laid up but my dehydrator and I have been having arguments. I actually finally just got finished up dehydrating up what I thought would be a ton of rosemary but I guess once dehydrated it really doesn't go far.
I then dried it out some after the washing and arranged it on the trays for the dehydrator.
And this is what I got out of 4 trays. Now mind you the jar is a little deceptive it was a banana pepper jar. Yes, I know I'm a hoarder of jars! But they come in so handy!
There we have it. Now I think I'll go get some rest. I'll need to try and finish some more on my list tomorrow and actually do things like dust and such so when the lady from the Newspaper comes Wednesday she doesn't feel the need to line her seat with plastic. :)
Another Manic Monday
... I wish it was a Sunday.... *sings along in her head*
Today is Katherine's Birthday! My sweet girl! I got up and actually cooked a pancake for her. I never cook in the mornings especially not at 6am but I thought she'd like something other than cereal for her birthday. So she got a big fat pancake (no pictures it was 6:20 by time I got done making it) and we tossed her hair up in a ponytail. Had a tad bit of an argument she wanted to wear sweatpants to school today!! I finally got her into shorts. I think she'll be a lot happier that way.
I got her out the door after some playful talk at the end of the driveway with me still in my nighty LOL BAH I was properly covered the neighborhood can get over it Katherine was just enjoying talking my ear off and I was going to fully let her.
Rest of the morning has gone off so far without a hitch let us continue it stays that way.
So I started with a rough list this morning though I'm sure I forgot stuff. I'm a bit hazy in the head and must go sing more praises to my coffee pot.
First Monday I've had 'off' for awhile so I've got a list of things to do.
Of course all of this after having to do last minute shopping for the party. You always forget something.
Here I am half asleep.... *does the timey whimey thing*
Saturday was the day that was crazy! Peter and Katherine went to Pokemon League. I took Brielle out shopping with me for groceries for the party and then gifts for Katherine. After which I picked up Katherine from Peter and I walked down to Hobby Lobby with the girls to get party favors. We then went to the public library for Katherine and Brielle to turn in their books because they had already read them and to check out new books and then it was off to the family dollar where we found lots of discounted party supplies. During the course of this Peter was selling a computer he had worked on and getting a haircut. Needless to say I had my phone by me constantly with Cozi pulled up so I could keep track of taking care of everything!
And that was the weekend folks ;)
Today is Katherine's Birthday! My sweet girl! I got up and actually cooked a pancake for her. I never cook in the mornings especially not at 6am but I thought she'd like something other than cereal for her birthday. So she got a big fat pancake (no pictures it was 6:20 by time I got done making it) and we tossed her hair up in a ponytail. Had a tad bit of an argument she wanted to wear sweatpants to school today!! I finally got her into shorts. I think she'll be a lot happier that way.
I got her out the door after some playful talk at the end of the driveway with me still in my nighty LOL BAH I was properly covered the neighborhood can get over it Katherine was just enjoying talking my ear off and I was going to fully let her.
Rest of the morning has gone off so far without a hitch let us continue it stays that way.
So I started with a rough list this morning though I'm sure I forgot stuff. I'm a bit hazy in the head and must go sing more praises to my coffee pot.
First Monday I've had 'off' for awhile so I've got a list of things to do.
- Laundry -> Wash / Fold / Put Away
- Dishes
- Clean Stove
- Clean Fridge
Make MenuShopping List- Shopping
- Make Beds
- Mow Lawn
- Vacuum
- Clean Bathtub
- Organize Coupons
- Put Away Birthday Supplies
- Lunch with Peter
I've already knocked out 2 things on my list this morning. Menu and shopping list. Pretty easy to do one if you've done the other. Other than chicken being on sale I don't plan to really stock up on anything.
- Katherine's Birthday Meal - Eating Out (Today)
- Spaghetti
- Chicken & Rice w/stir fry veggies
- Grilled Ham & Cheese Sandwiches w/tomato soup
- Pulled Pork & Chips
- Pizza
- Meatloaf w/Mashed Potatoes & Corn
Pretty standard fare around here. I went through one of my recipe books this morning and everything just seemed impossibly hard to adjust correctly so that my husband will touch it so I just gave up.
That's where I'm at today on things. Hopefully I make it through the day!
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Now flash back to Sunday! Katherine had her birthday party at the park! My big 9 year old!
In her swim suit because we couldn't let her run around in her birthday suit at the park.
She wanted dinosaurs and yes those are the colors of frosting she wanted for the trim!
Of course all of this after having to do last minute shopping for the party. You always forget something.
Here I am half asleep.... *does the timey whimey thing*
Saturday was the day that was crazy! Peter and Katherine went to Pokemon League. I took Brielle out shopping with me for groceries for the party and then gifts for Katherine. After which I picked up Katherine from Peter and I walked down to Hobby Lobby with the girls to get party favors. We then went to the public library for Katherine and Brielle to turn in their books because they had already read them and to check out new books and then it was off to the family dollar where we found lots of discounted party supplies. During the course of this Peter was selling a computer he had worked on and getting a haircut. Needless to say I had my phone by me constantly with Cozi pulled up so I could keep track of taking care of everything!
And that was the weekend folks ;)
Sunday, August 18, 2013
Kid's Halloween Party 2013 - Planning Phase
This will be a posting that is updated quite a few times just to make it easier for a few of us ladies to get together and post links and update it as needed as plans come together for an all out kids Halloween Party. We've seen them growing up on the TV or read about them in the books or maybe a few rare friends would have that haunted garage or you'd walk buy kids parties going. Well a bunch of us have been talking for a year and this is something we TOTALLY want to do with the kids!
So here is to planning a great Halloween Party let's hope we can pull this one together!
Creepy Ice Hand I've heard of a few fails on this project so we'll have to do a trial run.
So here is to planning a great Halloween Party let's hope we can pull this one together!
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Grape Eyeballs Look like they could be fun with some plastic martini glasses for the kids make them feel all grown up.
Hard Candy "Blood Drip" I had this idea but using candy apple dip but I found this site had a hard candy recipe. I'm not sure which would be better but it does look like it'd be fun to use for the glasses!
Hand-Burger ! Oh a quick add already! I thought this was funny and cute!
Hand-Burger ! Oh a quick add already! I thought this was funny and cute!
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| http://iblue.hubpages.com/hub/Top-10-Halloween-Homemade-Decorations |
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| http://decore4you.blogspot.com/2013/08/homemade-outdoor-decorations.html |
I think this one would be real cheap and easy to do if we start saving up milk jugs right now then all we'd need is to pull out a string of xmas lights.
I'll add more stuff up later! Of course we are talking the traditional stuff too like bobbing for apples and maybe a movie like Casper or something showing!
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More ideas! There's so many and many I forgot to collect to put on here! Eep! And the party date is fast approaching!
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More ideas! There's so many and many I forgot to collect to put on here! Eep! And the party date is fast approaching!
I saw this on Dana Made It and thought it'd be cheap and easy to set up! I love anything cheap and easy!
I was getting ready to order Katherine a subscription of Ranger Rick when I was going through their website and found THIS fruity jack-o-lantern.
I was getting ready to order Katherine a subscription of Ranger Rick when I was going through their website and found THIS fruity jack-o-lantern.
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Busy Thursday
So I spent my day worrying about Katherine and how things were going to go. I was so worried and stressed out about it I forgot my cellphone and my lunch at home when I went to work.
Well great news! Katherine got all her points and remembered all her supplies! She had an awesome day! We went to Kroger after I picked her up from After School and she picked out her birthday cake and I bought her a chocolate chip frappuccino at Starbucks. She even saw a friend when we were there. This from the girl who tells me she doesn't have friends.
After work today I started on the desk. I just needed to be busy with my hands. Sadly I ran into a few problems and I'll have to do some touch up on it later. 1. I had hoped this would be a dollar store project but having never used spray paint before I went through 3 cans and used paint I had out in the shed which was latex so yeah I've had a few difficulties. I also used some chalking we had laying around and contact paper I bought at the dollar store. I'll do more to the desk later but I wanted to get it inside today.
Well great news! Katherine got all her points and remembered all her supplies! She had an awesome day! We went to Kroger after I picked her up from After School and she picked out her birthday cake and I bought her a chocolate chip frappuccino at Starbucks. She even saw a friend when we were there. This from the girl who tells me she doesn't have friends.
After work today I started on the desk. I just needed to be busy with my hands. Sadly I ran into a few problems and I'll have to do some touch up on it later. 1. I had hoped this would be a dollar store project but having never used spray paint before I went through 3 cans and used paint I had out in the shed which was latex so yeah I've had a few difficulties. I also used some chalking we had laying around and contact paper I bought at the dollar store. I'll do more to the desk later but I wanted to get it inside today.
Before - I should have moved the chair.
After. It definitely looks different I think!
I ended up spending about $9 out of pocket on the project.
Short Update
Well I thought it'd be silly and too much work for me to have 2 facebook accounts so I made a facebook group. While it won't be 'shared' and suggested to others as often traffic to my site has never been my #1 goal rather it has been for me to be able to talk about what we are up to and share it with old friends, new friends and family.
The facebook group link should be: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196139677227028/
Feel free to join. I should mostly be posting just links to a new blog unless something catches my eye completely. If this format does not work well we may change to an additional account but I'd like to avoid it if possible.
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Other news we've been in contact with Katherine's teacher already there are things going on and Katherine is giving me a blank stare not remembering it and it's behavior issues I've never had with her. Apparently if anyone touches her she screams bloody murder? It has me completely confused I've never heard or witness such a thing with her. I may try to take some time off soon and ask to sit in during a school day because what the teachers are telling me doesn't give with the Katherine I know. Mind you I should be used to this they marked her as a problem child back in Kindergarten and each teacher has passed it onto the next one plus she is getting all of Brielle's old teachers and Brielle is a much more quiet and reserve child so I think they are going in with unreasonable expectations.
It's stressful and as a mom you just want the very best for your child. It's not the end of the world and we will work through this but I just want to sit down and cry because I really getting the feeling they aren't giving Katherine a fair chance. I'll be happy when she gets to Middle School so she can get away from this reputation the teachers have pinned on her. I know what the problem really is I told the teachers some years ago to go fly a kite when they wanted her put on ritalin. For blurting out answers in the classroom and emotionally not being up with the rest of the kids.
Um...
1. she blurts stuff out because she's excited and she's trying to 'participate' god forbid a child does that. I'm not saying she shouldn't raise her hand but it's something very fixable.
2. She's one of the youngest students in the class plus she doesn't have a lot of brothers and sisters and a neighborhood of kids to play with so admittedly emotionally she's not quite up there and I warned them about that. She's a very sensitive child on top of it and loves every little thing. She captures spiders and other bugs that gets in the house and releases them to the outdoors!
If you've read my posts for a long time then you know I'm HIGHLY against medicating children! I was that misdiagnosed case that spent a third of her life trying to fix things after horrible pills and manipulating doctors. Not to mention they tried to pull the same ADHD bs on me about Brielle strictly because her test times were low! Schools need to stop looking for quick fixes and teachers need to do their jobs and states need to properly fund these teachers and support staff so that everyone can do their job properly! If you work with a child and you show them what is going on and why they shouldn't do something and you repeat working on that and giving them structure and the individual attention the need and deserve then problems will be fixed without pills 90% of the time. But you stick one grown up into a class of 28-32 kids and of course they can't see what's going on which also is what allows bullies which there are quite a few of at the school. One kid looked at Katherine in after school last week when Katherine went up to introduce herself and said, "Get out of my life." I really feel for poor Katherine as she tries to find her place in this world.
Here I am about ready to start crying again and I need to finish getting ready for work.
Well this was suppose to be a short update but I found my soap box. Just very stressed out at the moment as I want only the best for my kiddos.
The facebook group link should be: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196139677227028/
Feel free to join. I should mostly be posting just links to a new blog unless something catches my eye completely. If this format does not work well we may change to an additional account but I'd like to avoid it if possible.
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Other news we've been in contact with Katherine's teacher already there are things going on and Katherine is giving me a blank stare not remembering it and it's behavior issues I've never had with her. Apparently if anyone touches her she screams bloody murder? It has me completely confused I've never heard or witness such a thing with her. I may try to take some time off soon and ask to sit in during a school day because what the teachers are telling me doesn't give with the Katherine I know. Mind you I should be used to this they marked her as a problem child back in Kindergarten and each teacher has passed it onto the next one plus she is getting all of Brielle's old teachers and Brielle is a much more quiet and reserve child so I think they are going in with unreasonable expectations.
It's stressful and as a mom you just want the very best for your child. It's not the end of the world and we will work through this but I just want to sit down and cry because I really getting the feeling they aren't giving Katherine a fair chance. I'll be happy when she gets to Middle School so she can get away from this reputation the teachers have pinned on her. I know what the problem really is I told the teachers some years ago to go fly a kite when they wanted her put on ritalin. For blurting out answers in the classroom and emotionally not being up with the rest of the kids.
Um...
1. she blurts stuff out because she's excited and she's trying to 'participate' god forbid a child does that. I'm not saying she shouldn't raise her hand but it's something very fixable.
2. She's one of the youngest students in the class plus she doesn't have a lot of brothers and sisters and a neighborhood of kids to play with so admittedly emotionally she's not quite up there and I warned them about that. She's a very sensitive child on top of it and loves every little thing. She captures spiders and other bugs that gets in the house and releases them to the outdoors!
If you've read my posts for a long time then you know I'm HIGHLY against medicating children! I was that misdiagnosed case that spent a third of her life trying to fix things after horrible pills and manipulating doctors. Not to mention they tried to pull the same ADHD bs on me about Brielle strictly because her test times were low! Schools need to stop looking for quick fixes and teachers need to do their jobs and states need to properly fund these teachers and support staff so that everyone can do their job properly! If you work with a child and you show them what is going on and why they shouldn't do something and you repeat working on that and giving them structure and the individual attention the need and deserve then problems will be fixed without pills 90% of the time. But you stick one grown up into a class of 28-32 kids and of course they can't see what's going on which also is what allows bullies which there are quite a few of at the school. One kid looked at Katherine in after school last week when Katherine went up to introduce herself and said, "Get out of my life." I really feel for poor Katherine as she tries to find her place in this world.
Here I am about ready to start crying again and I need to finish getting ready for work.
Well this was suppose to be a short update but I found my soap box. Just very stressed out at the moment as I want only the best for my kiddos.
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